Fence Post of Faith-August 2013

Matt. 6:14-15 says: For if you forgive men when they sin against you, you’re heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men of their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

A few weeks ago I was judging over towards Springfield ILL. And I ran into a family I knew from years ago, they were a wealthy family and always had nice horses. I was relatively a new judge in the association I was judging in, and when you’re a horse show judge, people want to become your friends.

   Well this family tried to help out from time to time, they would invite me to their motor home for supper or such. But that kind of kindness didn’t sway my decision in the arena they found out quickly. And quickly they had resentment towards me, tried to start rumors but that failed, I was one who would not follow the norm. I forgave them once and told them that holding onto bitterness will only lead to resentment.

Many people hold onto the spear of resentment when we refuse to forgive and it’s just as insane as what that family was doing to me. Resentment never rights a wrong. Resentment never solves the situation and it doesn’t make me feel any better. We think when we hold onto our hurt we are getting back at the person who hurts us. We think when we hold onto our bitterness we are getting revenge of the person who wronged us.

We think when we hold onto the spear of resentment then we are spearing the person who hurt us but whenever I use the spear of resentment it doesn’t hurt the person who wronged me. It only hurts me. How we need to realize that. We think we are spearing that person who wronged us but we are just spearing ourselves and some of you have been hurt by someone in your past and you are refusing to forgive and you think about holding onto that hurt and you are getting back at them but they are not even thinking about you.


One thing that I have learned in growing in my Faith is that “Forgiveness is the only way to live and the only way to build relationships.” When we refuse to forgive someone, we are damaging our own health and happiness. A past hurt that you do not forgive will affect your current relationship negatively. Jesus tells us that if you do not learn to forgive others that He will not forgive you. Since we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, we must be will and able to forgive other people’s wrongdoings and mistakes even if we didn’t do anything wrong.


Since no one deserves to be forgiven, you cannot earn forgiveness either. Forgiveness is about being honest with others and letting them know that they have hurt you. You need to learn how to be able to forgive others instantly. Once you forgive them, you can then start the process of rebuilding trust.


Let me ask you today, do you have resentment in your heart? The time is right; the time is now for that forgiveness. Even if they don’t except it like that family I spoke of earlier, you have done you part, you have made yourself right with God.


Adios my friends and we will see you somewhere on the road.

Jeff Metcalf.