Fence Post of Faith March 2015

Proverbs 20:3 “It is an honor for a man to cease from strife.”

Sometimes it hard to let go and move ahead in many aspects of the horse world, and in our own life!

Just like a crutch is a temporary tool we use for walking following an injury to a leg or foot. Once the injury is healed, we put the crutch away and walk on our own. The word Crutch is also used to describe something or someone we may rely on short-term to help us to get through a period of challenge. The term takes on a bad connotation, when used to describe something that we’ve become unnecessarily dependent upon, usually to the detriment of our physical, mental, or emotional process.

    A crutch is supposed to be temporary, just until we heal, or until we can get by on our own. It’s not supposed to be a permanent, even when our crutch is someone important to us. One of the hardest things to accept is that not everyone is meant to be in our lives forever. Some people are meant to be with you for the long term, of course—your spouse, your children, your siblings, your parents, and your closest friends. But then there are those God brings across your path for a season, maybe a mentor, a teacher, or a guide of some sore to help you through a certain stage of life or a difficult time.

    If God didn’t move them away, we would become too dependent. Instead of helping us, they would hinder us. Their presence might limit our growth.

     You have to be big enough to recognize when someone’s part in your life is over. It doesn’t mean the person is bad. You can still be friends. You can still love and respect each other. But you must accept that everything changes. To move forward you have to let go.

    Just as God supernaturally brings people into our lives, He will supernaturally move some out. When a person walks away and you think you can’t live without them, that’s God saying, “It’s time for you to go to a new level.”

   You don’t need someone to constantly think for you, drive you, believe in you, and encourage you. You can do that for yourself. If you are to keep growing, eliminate your dependency on crutches.
   Don’t try to talk people into loving you. Don’t try to persuade them to stay beyond their usefulness. Let them go.

  I sure each one of you have seen this principle in action when someone close to you have announced he or she was moving away, or you may have seen it in a barrel horse you loved but knew it was time to move on.

    You want horses and people in your life who are supposed to be there. When God wants them present in your life, they don’t find fault in everything you do, and you don’t have to manipulate them to stay. That’s what is so special about life, we meet some many people in our travels over the years in rodeo’s and barrel races and we can’t remember all their names. But what we can know is God led them into our life for a reason, and they touch our lives maybe for just a short moment.  But God put them there for a reason.

 A prayer: Father, today I submit every relationship in my life to You. I trust that you are connecting me to the right people, and removing people who are no longer tied to my purpose. Give me wisdom and grace to navigate change and rise up higher in the gifts and talent’s You have given me. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Jeff Metcalf