Fence Post of Faith October 2015
Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. Matthew 6:12
     When I was growing up in Missouri I had a friend who hated her father, because he ran around on her mother. She didn’t have a good childhood. She always resented the fact that her father wasn’t faithful and he wasn’t there for her growing up. She couldn’t stand to be around him.
      But I learned when she grew up, she around on her husband and broke up her own home? She was not there for her own children. She became exactly what she hated in her father.
      That’s why it’s so important to forgive and let go. The bitterness, the sin you retain, can produce the same results that hurt you. If you were raised in an abusive environment, if you come from a family filled with anger and dysfunction, instead of becoming bitter and angry, why don’t you be the one to put an end to the negative cycle?
     You can be the one to make a difference. Are you holding on to anger and forgiveness and passing poison down to the next generation? Or are you willing to let it go so your family can rise to a new level?
I realize it can be very hard to forgive, especially when someone has hurt you, but God will never ask you to do something without giving you the ability to do it.
     Forgiveness is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. You don’t snap your fingers and make a hurt go away. That’s not realistic. But if you’ll continue to have the desire to forgive and to ask God to help you, then little by little those negative feelings will fade. One day they won’t affect you at all.
     When Jesus prayer the Lord’s Prayer, He said, “Forgive our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” When God talks about debts, He’s not just talking about monetary debts. He’s talking about the times when people hurt you, the times when people do you wrong. God refers to that as a debt because when you are mistreated, you may feel you are owed something.
    Human nature says, “I was wronged. Now I want justice. You mistreated me. Now you’ve got to pay me back.” But the mistake many people make is in trying to collect a debt that only God can pay. The father who allowed his daughter to be abused couldn’t give her innocence back to her. Your parents can’t make it up to you because you didn’t have a loving childhood. Your spouse can’t make it up to you for the pain he caused by being unfaithful. Only God can truly do that.
        If you want to be restored and be whole, get on God’s payroll. He knows how to make things right. He knows how to bring justice. He’ll give you what you deserve. Leave it up to Him. Quit expecting people to make it up to you! They can’t give you what they don’t have.

Jeff Metcalf